How to manage tantrums
Dealing with temper tantrums
So what?
As we discussed in our previous post, Wikipedia defines a tantrum (i.e. temper tantrum, meltdown, fit or hissy fit) as “an emotional outburst, usually associated with those in emotional distress”. This post and next few posts will touch on different ways that you can manage and deal with temper tantrums. There is no one correct or best way in managing and dealing with them. But one thing that’s clear is giving in to tantrums can lead to your child or loved one being rewarded for their behaviours. And this means that they will happen over and over again.
Hug it out
We are going to start our list with one of my favourite ways to deal with tantrums as well as unwanted behaviours. I came across this from listening to The Dad Edge Podcast. It’s not particularly meant for dealing with tantrums but I’ve used it successfully in dealing with them. It’s simple. When your child or loved one starts throwing a tantrum, grab and hug them as tight as you can. A big bear hug with your arms wrapped around is a must so their arms are secure. I promise you. They will often times try to wiggle out and get really flustered at first but continue to hold them and even gently pat their back or shoulders. Physical touch is a great way to connect with them and help them feel secure and cared for.
Ignore it
Ignoring your child or loved one’s tantrums is a way to let them know that their behaviour is not acceptable. It also creates a learning opportunity for them to self regulate their emotions and reactions to those emotions. Unless there is a risk of harming or endangering themselves, removing yourself from the tantrum is also a great way to give yourself a break and recoup so you can recover from the emotional stress.
My experience
As I mentioned, hugging it out is one of my favourite things I do with my family. Whether we are in a good mood or dealing with tantrums, I yell “hug it out” and grab whoever is in close proximity. For some reason, female members of our family have easier time relaxing compared to our 6 year old boy who can get really hard to hold onto. I plan to hug it out as long as I can with him but my numbers are limited as it’s getting harder to even catch him before he realises what’s happening and runs away.
What now?
- Are there any methods that you frequently use to manage tantrums? What makes you go back to using those methods?
- Feel free to drop us a message to share what works and doesn’t work for you and your family.